My dad left when I was five. He did not die. He was not in a war. He just left. After he left I was angry at him and sad, but I did not have a grief camp. Maybe it would have made things easier for me and for my brother. They’re probably very helpful and I am glad they exist. My brother and I were just angry for a while and then dealt with other issues and then FINALLY went to therapy about it more than six years later.
But now our country has grief camps for kids, because of the Iraq War. Great idea, HORRIBLE reason for needing it.
At Camp Good Grief, all the children are mourning for a parent or other relative who died while serving in the military.
“Age doesn’t matter. The grief process is the same,” said Vanessa
Gabrielson, a camp counselor whose father was killed in Iraq in 2003. “Every time I go, it gets easier, and I learn something from them.”Some of the campers have never discussed their parent’s death.
Others describe the grisly details of war matter-of-factly. But being with children who have endured a similar loss provides comfort, counselors said.More than 20 children ranging from 7 to 19 years old attended the one-day camp this past week in Salado, near Fort Hood. About 40 parents and other adults attended a separate survivor seminar,
also run by the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors.The nonprofit organization known as TAPS has held an annual children’s camp in Alexandria, Va., since shortly after the group was founded in 1994. It began holding camps and adult seminars nationwide last fall in cities near military bases.
The children and their parents grieve for family members who were killed by roadside bombs, snipers or crashes. Others lost relatives to accidents, illness or suicide after their loved ones returned to the U.S.
The United States should not need to have a camp where kids can
grieve because their parents died as soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan.
We should not be in this war. We should not have started this war.
We need to get out of Iraq and as part of the money we pay them
to repair what we did for their country, maybe we should set up grief
camps there for all of the kids who lost a brother or a sister or a mom or a dad or a best friend because of this war. I bet there are a lot of kids in Iraq who need a grief camp.
August 18, 2007 at 6:18 pm
I agree with your firm sense of justice and fairness. You’re a hundred percent correct!
August 18, 2007 at 6:38 pm
I’m almost speechless. This deserves an award!! This tells me there is much hope for the future of this country.
S.F.
August 18, 2007 at 11:41 pm
Leaves me almost speechless, too. My favorite of your posts so far, Cassie. Simple, passionate eloquence. Can’t beat that.
August 19, 2007 at 12:19 am
this is good…what a story
August 19, 2007 at 12:25 am
Cassie
Honey,
This is really powerful. You are becoming such a forceful writer. Did I tell you how much I admire what you have to say?
Keep working so hard. It’s worth every minute you spend on it.
LHP
August 19, 2007 at 7:48 am
Cassie: Yeah, what everyone else is saying.
And yes, there are lots and lots and LOTS of kids in Iraq who need grief camps. And running water, and electricity, and the lives they had five years ago, before the invasion kicked them into the Stone Age.
August 19, 2007 at 7:51 am
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August 19, 2007 at 10:05 am
Great post, Cassie.
August 19, 2007 at 12:14 pm
20 children in a one day camp? I hope they have a lot of these seesions, because it takes a lot of 20′s to count up to 3,800, doesn’t it?
August 19, 2007 at 1:09 pm
Have a hug, Cassie.
And pass it on.
August 19, 2007 at 1:11 pm
Especially this:
The United States should not need to have a camp where kids can
grieve because their parents died as soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan.
We should not be in this war. We should not have started this war.
We need to get out of Iraq and as part of the money we pay them
to repair what we did for their country, maybe we should set up grief
camps there for all of the kids who lost a brother or a sister or a mom or a dad or a best friend because of this war. I bet there are a lot of kids in Iraq who need a grief camp.
August 19, 2007 at 3:01 pm
I’d like to see those grief campers elected to Congress.
August 20, 2007 at 12:39 am
Excellent idea to sponsor grief camps in Iraq/Afghanistan as well as here in the US. Heaven knows there is a load of grief that needs comfort. Thanks for another excellent article, Cassie. You are becoming one heck of a writer.
August 20, 2007 at 1:08 am
Thank you frecklescassie for your compassion, grace and spot-on reporting on this heretofore neglected dimension of the madness of King George and his criminal cartel.
ReElect President Al Gore in 2008. Accept no substitute.
August 25, 2007 at 4:52 pm
Cassie and her crew do it again. Bravo. Keep it up. Cassie, you’re like Jane and Christy, you’re not just a blogger. You’re a force in the world of the press. At leas the press that most of us read.
I think it’s a pretty hopeful sign when someone your age comes up with stuff that brings people my age back here again and again. You should feel proud. Sorry. I’m just one of your fans.
RES
August 25, 2007 at 4:57 pm
Oh, yeah. If you EVER get a bad grade in poly sci (social studies), you let us know, along with the e-mail address of the teacher who gave it to you. We’ll get your back. Politely, of course, but a lot of us, an awful lot of us fought in NAM. To get that kind of respect from that group is really to be someone